There are a bunch of us girls who are going to start on the book and study guide “Lies women believe” this week.  If you know me at all, the very fact that the word “woman” is on the cover makes this an unlikely choice for me.  The average author of women’s Christian workbooks seems to have in mind parenting advice, balance, or how to be a good wife or homemaker when they plan books for women.  We have looked at 1 John in the past (a poor attempt on my part – which I will rectify when the kids are in school more), Don’t Waste Your Life by John Piper and Respectable Sins by Bridges….

The author is addressing something very interesting in this new book – Eve was deceived.  And so are we.  Often by ourselves.  I am becoming aware of the times I re-label something, in order to make it okay.  Case in point.

I was relaying to my friend Raquel that I have this tendency to walk around the house, letting everyone know that I am grumpy about the fact that I have to __________________.  It usually involves having to do something for someone else, when I wanted to do something for myself.  It is not the best attitude.  At all.  And I call it my “martyr” attitude.  Raquel, in all her God-given honesty said “that’s not being a martyr, that’s being the victim.”  She has no idea the nerve she hit. 

I can’t stand victims.  (I’m not talking about the people who have survived serious calamity)  I mean the type of person who, no matter how many times you explain to them their fault in a situation, they never get it.  You try and reason with them, and all they get out of the conversation is how mean you were to them.  They never see how their actions impact others.  Drives me NUTS.  And Raquel called me one. 

At this point, I am no longer decieved.  It is a touch uncomfortable.  As long as I was “being the martyr” I was okay with my behavior.  I may not have been cheerful in all I was doing (slight understatement), but maybe that was just because I was doing so many wonderful things for my family.  Or friends…. or whomever.  And she takes the rug out from under me.  I’m being the victim???? 

It is amazing, really, how just that simple twist on the words has impacted me in the last week.  And, I know it is a representation of all the other things we improperly label, in order to continue in sin.  Even our society does it – adultery is renamed – you’re having an affair.  You’re not an alcoholic, you have a drinking problem.  I can see, especially in light of my conversation with a friend, how absolutely necessary it is to call sin for what it is.  To identify it as God does, not label it the way Satan, or the world does.  That we might not be decieved, nor decieve ourselves.  That we might attain victory over sins in our lives, by recognizing them for what they are.


2 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. Raquel
    Sep 16, 2008 @ 10:35:05

    yo – you’re right.
    I didn’t have any idea of the nerve that GOD hit. Just shows how much He loves you 😉


  2. Jenn
    Sep 18, 2008 @ 09:14:16

    Funny you should blog about this topic. As you know, I am adjusting to being back in the working world and have taken up reading some leadership/management books. “The QBQ” by John Miller is the most recent one I’ve been reading. It’s all about personal accountability and after getting half way through it, I am sure that applying this change of mindset will be advantageous in all the realms of my life. It’s a great borrow from the library if you are looking for (one more!) great book to read. It’s a pretty easy book to get through, too.


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